Lesson 226: Talking about conflicts

Objective

I can talk about conflicts in a calm way. I can name the problem, use kind words, listen to others, and help look for a fair, safe idea together.

Materials

• Plain paper or a notebook page
• Crayons or colored pencils
• Optional: sticky notes or stars to mark calm ideas

Mini-lesson — What is a conflict?

Guided Practice — Conflict talking map

You and an adult will choose a small, everyday conflict and draw a simple talking map to practise calm words and listening.

1. On a notebook page, draw three boxes in a row. Label them "My words", "Your words", and "Our fair idea".
2. Pick a tiny conflict, such as "We both want the same game" or "Someone cuts the line". Write or trace the conflict at the top of the page.
3. In the My words box, help the child think of an "I" message, such as "I feel sad when I get pushed. I need us to wait our turn." Draw the child and add the speech bubble.
4. In the Your words box, draw the other person. Help the child imagine what the other person might say, such as "I did not see the line. I can go to the back."
5. In the Our fair idea box, draw both people and one fair, safe idea (for example, "We both wait in line" or "We take turns for two minutes each"). Add a short label.
6. Practise reading the talking map aloud together. Take turns saying each speech bubble using a calm voice.
7. Ask: "How does it feel when both people get to speak and listen?" and "What makes this idea fair and safe?"

Tracing Pad

Lines Primary lines Baseline only Grid Blank Trace (none) conflict problem talk listen kind words take turns fair safe I feel sorry

Pen Clear

Tip: As you trace, say a sentence such as "I can talk about conflicts calmly."

Practice — Two sides of a conflict

Use this practice to help your child notice that conflicts have two sides and that both people's feelings and words matter.

1. On a new page, draw a line down the middle. At the top, write or trace "Two sides of a conflict".
2. On the left side, write "Person A". On the right side, write "Person B".
3. Choose a small conflict story, such as "Two people want the same seat" or "One friend does not want to play the game". Write or trace it at the top.
4. On the Person A side, help the child draw the person and add:
   • How Person A feels.
   • What Person A wants.
   • One calm sentence Person A could say.
5. On the Person B side, do the same: draw, show feelings, wants, and one calm sentence.
6. Under the line, draw both people again and write or trace one fair, safe idea they can agree on (for example, "We sit together", "We take turns", or "We choose a new game").
7. Ask: "What did we learn about each side?" and "How did listening to both sides help?"
8. Mark the fair idea with a star or sticker to show it as a peaceful choice.

Quick Check — Talking about conflicts

Answer each question about conflicts, kind words, and listening turns.

Assessment (parent/teacher)

Exit ticket (student)